Almost every year releases fresh data points that show the feminism-fueled war between the women is causing harm to anyone. A recent Wall Street Journal have explored how the male-female separate on everything from academic success to elections is killing off wedding and, therefore, forecasting the end of society. The article is titled” American Women Are Giving Up on Marriage.”
Compared to men, women are now more possible to: possess a house, student from every level of education, say they’re not looking for a partner, and express general hatred and dislike for the same sex. According to the WSJ, several women who they spoke to said they left relationships because they preferred careers to parenting, whereas their partners preferred women who prioritize mother.
The people WSJ quotes only accept earning more credentials and dollars as certainly excellent without highlighting the disastrous tradeoffs for women and society— especially, the United States’s largest unmarried population always. Is it really beneficial or easier for women to contribute to taxes as opposed to the entire next generation?
People used to have a more integrated understanding of our exclusive capacities. People frequently carefully taught people that there is so much more to life than just working up six figures, taking Instagram-worthy vacations, or owning a sports vehicle. Wedding expresses a sophisticated understanding of human life as being a lot more than bucks in a bank accounts. People making the decision to help a home that is tended by their brides normally results in a great return for both of them and all of us.
Prioritizing ties above money usually results in wedded couples both getting happier life and more success. Because two individuals working together toward a goal are more powerful than one, and because marriage encourages men to work smarter and harder, married people accumulate more wealth long-term, both in terms of pleasure and resources.
” Married couples had$ 393, 000 in median wealth in 2022, according to the St. Louis Federal Reserve, while unmarried people, including those who were partnered but not married, had$ 80, 000″, the WSJ notes. That’s almost a five-fold difference, and take note that married couples generate much more tax revenue than singles who favor feminist ideals.
Feminism owns much of the increasing divide we’re seeing among men and women, with civilization-ending consequences. Some, like Mary Harrington, who criticize feminism but still support the label, largely attribute this separation to external factors like the Industrial Revolution.
But it’s simply wrong not to also blame internal factors such as leftist ideology replacing Christianity. While what people believe also influences how they live, how they live is also affected by what they believe. So feminism shapes how we all live now, estranging women from their own biology while also estranging men and women from each other.
I was raised in a conservative religious family and attended one of the world’s most liberal colleges, like almost every other woman in the country. So did my husband, both of us mostly without even knowing it. I viewed a career as an obstacle to fulfillment rather than a means of a child.
Marriage gives us both opportunities to challenge each other to grow in our respective feminine and masculine capacities. It’s a lot of fun to work together, and it’s bringing us both a lot of joy. Thanks to feminist-driven no-fault divorce laws, however, today most couples divorce when forced to confront how feminism is damaging their marriage, as psychiatrist Hannah Spier explains. The WSJ article demonstrates how feminism also prevents marriages from occurring. Women are more committed to feminist ideology than their biology, and they reject men who claim that women’s bodies are meant to nurture a family.
Getting out of feminism’s civilizational suicide pact does require policy changes, as Spier also notes:” Everything from financial incentives for delaying family to tax penalties on single-income households, daycare subsidies, affirmative action, the two-income trap, and career penalties for mothers reinforces the same idea”. The government promotes the raising of all children in their lowest-risk environment: households run by their married biological parents instead of referencing civilizational suicide via unmarried adults.
Today, however, I wanted to mention some things my husband and I have done together that have helped us deprogram our feminism for a happier home. Because I’m a woman, I’m going to concentrate on what women can do to make ourselves more marriageable because how men are failing is extensively covered and even has celebrities like Jordan Peterson.
I say this because women just assume they’re marriageable if they have a college degree and a job. These are the requirements for men getting married. Female qualifications for marriage include: mothering skills ( practice raising children ), housekeeping skills ( like cooking without using a microwave ), the ability to prudently manage finances ( not racking up debt ), communicating with men without contempt, and a general air of sweetness, gentleness, and kindness. These characteristics, aside from the obvious ones, draw men to women ( as well as not being particularly overweight or having a generally feminine appearance ).
1. Visit the Bible and study it in the church
The inventor of a widget knows how it works, because he designed and created it. God created us, so He also understands how people work. This means that wherever what God says contradicts current social messaging, God is right and the messaging is wrong.
Anyone who wants a happy marriage and family should attend church and study the Bible because He has promised to show up and instruct us in those areas. We all need this instruction, because we can always grow and do better, and we need the community of people that gathers around this instruction.
People who attend church are happier, divorced less, and have less psychological issues. These are just material benefits surpassed by the spiritual and psychological development humans get from being part of a church focused on what the Bible clearly says ( instead of a fake church dedicated to dismissing what the Bible clearly says and fitting it to leftist politics ).
By commanding men to sacrifice on behalf of women and children, not abuse the vulnerable, and only to have sex in marriage, Christianity modifies and directs men’s natural aggression. It also directs women’s natural aggression in healthy ways, commanding women to respect their husbands, prioritize family, keep an orderly home, refrain from sluttery, and not gossip.
My husband and I have helped ourselves to align our lives with how God intended men and women to function together by acknowledging the authority of the Bible over our lives. People without this authority to guide them are more likely to ruin their own lives by foregoing family or putting women in charge of the family.
2. If You Don’t Want Kids, Fix That
It’s common for a woman to want and adore children. Chances are, if you don’t, you have some unresolved family issues. That was undoubtedly the case with me. As psychoanalyst and author Erica Komisar responded to podcaster Alex Clark‘s question,” If you feel more comfortable and competent in an office than being a mom, what should that tell you”? It should indicate that you may have a disorder related to attachment that needs to be looked into.
Young women — and men who don’t understand why so many women today are psycho — need to learn to see resistance to family connections as a sign of deep emotional distress. Humans are not created as loners, but rather as members of family ecosystems. Much of today’s flight from family descends from no-fault divorce and the subsidization of single motherhood, both of which brutalize kids and lead them to run away from family when they can.
However, if you leave your hangups and break up with work, you won’t be as happy and healthy. I know a lot of us have family “issues” now thanks to the paganization of our society and the increase in family disintegration. However, the solution is to accept responsibility for who we are rather than to increase them by ignoring them.
For many people, a good therapist can be helpful. Try an EMDR-focused trauma specialist. Feel free to try several therapists out before settling on one, as therapist quality and connection can widely vary. Additionally, your parents can refer you to local options.
All kinds of books can also be helpful. Robert Karen’s book Becoming Attached, which explores how motherhood and marriage can heal inherited family wounds, is a great read. Komisar’s Being There is another great place to start. Anna Runkle discusses a straightforward, no-cost method for beginning to organize your emotions ( guided journaling ), which she claims proved to be more effective than years of therapy.
3. Feminine Habits and Traits to Be Cultivate
Men don’t like fighting with women. Because many people are too polite to treat masculine women in a truly masculine way, this is why feminism can neuter men. Men intuitively know women aren’t sturdy enough to be physically or verbally punched even when we pretend we are. Many people, however, also dislike the double standard, which gives women all the advantages of aggressive behavior but little responsibility.
It is possible — and preferable! — to disagree and resolve disagreements without provoking confrontations in the first place. This is an ancient feminine skill that many women today know nothing about, because it’s rarely modeled for us. Ask me how I understand! Two favorite resources I’m using to develop feminine communication skills at home are Suzanne Venker’s The Alpha Female’s Guide to Men and Marriage ( I often give this as a wedding shower gift ) and Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking when the Stakes Are High.
I’ve also started changing the way I phrase words whenever I hear how bossy and harsh words come out of my mouth. Instead of,” Honey, come here”, the other night, I tried again:” Honey, would you mind coming here”? Instead of saying,” These kids are driving me crazy”! when he walks in the door, I wait, and after he’s caught his breath start with,” When would be a good time to talk about some struggles I had today with the kids? It shouldn’t take much time; it shouldn’t take 15 minutes.
Instead of immediate contradiction accompanied by an offensive roll of the eyes, I’m working on softening statements such as,” Well, have you considered …”? Or,” Here’s my concern,” as some people may say,” These are not manipulative tricks,” but they are ways to accept the reality that my husband and I are on the same team in every struggle, as men and women in general must be for our society to survive.
Rather than helicoptering and micromanaging everything everywhere, women often also need to step aside and make room for men to lead. Women are still needed, though. Of course we are needed. Without our extremely active existence, the human race cannot exist.
But women need to consider that often men aren’t leading because we’re not letting them or challenging them to. That is out of balance in terms of both spiritually and biologically. General male leadership doesn’t mean women don’t have input. That implies that men need our petitions, assistance, counsel, and encouragement rather than our nagging, whining, or control freakiness.
Some Requests for Men from a Woman
If men are biologically destined to lead and protect, which they are, then it becomes clear that they are responsible for helping everyone get out of the current civilized mess. ” Men going their own way” is a cowardly, unmanly response to an existential crisis. Strong men never give up on a bad situation. They don’t wallow in despair and bitterness. They assume leadership and control. They solve problems.
My general advice to men as a woman would be to step up and take the lead. Leadership isn’t tyranny, it isn’t hoisting yourself on a throne and making others do all the work. That’s a slave-master relationship, and it’s unfair. I would like to see more men exercise just authority and develop true leadership skills such as the art of persuasion, patience, and the willingness to sacrifice for others.
Leadership is not about forcing others to suffer, but it is about being yourself. That has been the general character of our society’s self-appointed “leaders” now for some time. We don’t require more of those. All the truly great leaders have led through sacrifice for others rather than forcing others to sacrifice for them. Become one of those.
Applied to the subject at hand, it seems to me that rather than flaccidly jeering at how stupid “women are these days”, it would be more manly to embark on the adventure of learning how to lead a woman, as my husband did. Yes, some women will end up being lifelong incorrigibles. I’m not asking you to be stupid or go white-knighting. If she doesn’t agree to a Bible that teaches the sex’s natural relationship and purpose, don’t marry her. Don’t marry if she’s steadfastly opposed to children or if she thinks men and women are interchangeable in every way. Set your red lines in a prudent manner.
But if she’s more of a passive victim of a feminist culture like you are, try leading both of you into a happy life. Watch what happens when you attempt to lead by stepping up rather than giving up, and when you sacrifice your comfort for what is truly beneficial for everyone. My husband had to put up with immature behavior from me, as did I with him, as do all married people, but he eventually got this career-minded woman to have six kids and like it well enough. Perhaps more men could try to be that successful, and the rest of us could assist.
