After more than two years at NBC,” Now” present anchor Hoda Kotb , announced , she’s jumping off the job treadmill to raise her children. I know how she feels. So do the bulk of America’s mother.
However, raising our own children is n’t a choice easily available to moms who are n’t celebrities or wealthy elites. The tears that were shed upon by Hoda’s coworkers for her “guts” were tearful. The rest of us are shamed and forced to comply with laws and regulations that favor working mothers.  ,  ,  ,  ,  ,  ,  ,  ,  ,  ,  ,  ,
Regardless of wealth, schooling, religion, or profession, the choice for staying home is shared by most people. According to the , 2017 American Community Survey, 63 percent of moms prefer working part-time or not at all. According to the Pew Research Center, although some moms stay at home to,  , 83 percent , of the more than 11 million stay-at-home parents are parents.
The most common cause given? Mothers want to be around their children. That is precisely what Kotb said when she said her kids deserved a “bigger part of my day pie.”
With a salary north of$ 7 million,  , money , is no object for Kotb. However, more mother work full-time than they want to because of legal and economic policies that army both families to work to make ends meet or even purchase a middle-class life. It’s a two-income trap , Elizabeth Warren , identified years ago that is now socially inexpedient for her to speak about.
The condition will definitely get worse given the current level of inflation and the cost of basic housing and groceries.  , Our , tax laws , are n’t family-friendly either.
Gen Z and young people describe how cynical they feel in their desperate attempts to promote marriage and family in Suzanne Venker’s new book, How To Build a Better Life. However, they have been trained to concentrate on their careers rather than watch “marriage and mother as fulfilling in itself.”
Also, our family law method discriminates against stay-at-home moms. A wave of new compensation laws, which favor restorative alimony over permanent alimony, have been introduced in addition to our nationwide no-fault divorce system. This results in more people returning to their homes to operate. Alimony is now only allowed to give them time to improve their abilities and leave the house.  ,
After working long hours to raise money for a lower payment on our house, I also chose Kotb’s way. My handsome then-husband left for another home a few years after. As we had agreed, I fought for the right to remain at home with my kids. However, I was shamed by the home judge.
While on the witness remain, the female , determine asked , me:” What are you doing with your time to be successful? Did any cognitive health professionals advise you that you would be better off returning to work? I have n’t heard why you want to stay home and not work”. In her determination, she slammed me orally for my choice and in the bag.
After my marriage, I started advocating for marriage reform. Alternatively of supporting me for my decision, women took up for my , cheating spouse. My tale is not special. Stay-at-home parents are often , shamed , for their decisions.
And let’s not forget the Biden-Harris ‘$ 1.8 trillion misnamed , American Families Plan , and its expensive childcare and school pieces. One of the many family-friendly nugget is that “[P] reschool has been shown to improve labour force participation among parents — particularly women — boosting home savings and driving financial growth.” With national candidate Harris, it’s of course all about” baby care” too. Something to prevent people from leaving their homes and away from their own babies.
As Ben Carson argues in his new publication,  , The Deadly Fight: Overcoming Our Society’s War on the American Family, the abuse on the American home is no longer a simple one. All manner of agendas and policies now work in tandem to destroy and prevent the influence of parents on their children, handing over more and more power to the lifestyle and the education system, with the mental, physical, and economic fallout, significant.
” ]W] e should not forcibly punish stay-at-home moms ( or stay-at-home dads ) for choosing to sacrifice on behalf of their families”, Carson writes, but that’s what is happening.
Not all people have the same desire to put their jobs on hold, I am aware of. I agree with them leaning in; however, do n’t shame or discriminate against the majority of women who lean out.
I applaud Kotb’s desire to put her kids initially. She might use some of her newfound liberty and time to make an impact on the lives of the rest of us.
Previous lawyer Beverly Willett is the co-founder of the Coalition for Divorce Reform. She is the author of” Disassembly Required: A Memoir of Midlife Resurrection”.