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Ah, illicit politics: From president to princes to peasants, there’ve been more matters than you can shake a stay at. It’s something that transcends edges, nations, speech, and politics.
You are giving your much loving the power to break it when you give it to them. That’s the offer: You get an ally, a companion, a fan, and a buddy, but there’s a cost.
And the price is n’t minor.
Affairs are impossible to ignore. If you continue to live on Earth long enough, it will sometimes happen to you directly or to somebody you care about. Illicit affairs have broken people, shattered life, triggered bloodshed, murder, and homicides— and, according to some experts, might’ve played a part in launching universe wars.  ,
Even in old days, a roving attention was associated with deadly issue. Helen of Troy, who was already married, eloped with Paris, according to Homer, who he believed was the start of the Trojan War. In the Holy Scriptures, King David’s adulterous affair with Bathsheba hardly only led to the sudden death of her husband, Uriah the Hittite, but David’s crimes culminated in fight, death, and the treacherous revolt of his brother, Absalom.
Affairs are terrifying, but the God’s honest reality is that nobody truly knows how popular they are. We can track the people who were caught, but we have no idea who evaded monitoring, sort of like crime monitoring or tracking crime statistics.
Could be a bit, could be a minor.
In addition, how unrealistic is it to ask people to honestly respond to survey questions like,” Are you cheating on your spouse right now?” is kind of crazy. If they’re willing to lie to their families, they’re willing to lie to a geologist. Disciplined individuals will do deceptive things.
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We are now aware that the Tinder voting results in some oddly-shaped statistics. ( Tinder is a well-known dating and sex app. ) According to a 2018 study, 42 % of Americans said they used Tinder while they were married or in a married relationship. But when asked about their male “friends”, a whopping 73.1 % said their “friends” were on Tinder while in a committed relationship, and 56.1 % said the same about their female “friends”.
Interpret that how you will.
Before writing this article, I assumed that affairs would occur more frequently when couples are younger since there’s probably a link between youth ( and immaturity ), someone’s sex drive, and their desire to pursue extramarital nookie.  , Turns out, that’s not real at all:  , Men between the ages of 60 and 69 — and women between the ages 50 and 59 — have the highest levels of marriage.
Women are significantly more likely to steal among married couples between the ages of 18 and 29. After time 30, it’s more likely to become men. From this point forward, men’s rates of cheating surpass women’s and do n’t noticeably decline until men’s 80s.
Even though their infidelity rate reaches its highest point in their 60s ( 16 % ) and continues to rise through their 70s ( 13 % ), it drops off a cliff in their 80s ( 6 % ). But, if you’re a guy who wants a faithful, honest woman, singles nights at the retirement community is a lender’s business! ( Yay? )
Anecdotally, Americans fall into three camps when it comes to affairs:  ,
The first group thinks they’re awful and inexcusable, and anyone who’d do such a thing is a horrible human being. Period, end of story.
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It’s not a big deal if someone occasionally has an affair, according to the second group because they think the opposite: Monogamy is just a social construct that’s contrary to human nature. It’s what adults do. Grow up and stop making such a big deal about it.
The third group falls somewhere in the middle: Affairs are obviously bad, but humans are n’t perfect. Everyone makes mistakes, that’s why forgiveness is so important. Someone else’s bedroom is n’t yours to judge anyway, relationships are messy, confusing, and complex, live and let live.
Lots of people claim they’re in the first group. They’ll loudly declare that affairs are a dealbreaker, and they’d NEVER tolerate them. Not everyone is as absolutist as they claimed, though, and when the pressure comes, and they are facing the possibility of permanently splitting up their family.
The institution of marriage is legal, religious, social, sexual, and pragmatic — all rolled in one. There are a lot of moving parts.
And it’s also a leap of faith.
I met my wife in 1999 when I was 24. Well, it’s now 2024, and 1999 was ]doing math in my head ] … a THOUSAND YEARS AG O! And since then, both of us have undergone a significant change. Really, if we were the same people we were in 1999, it would mean we had n’t grown in 25+ years.
Think about it this: The average lifespan of every cell in a human body ranges from seven to ten years. Your cells have a lifecycle, and then they’re recycled. So, if we set sail on the Ship of Thesus, we’re literally different people than we were in 1999. We’re multiple different people!
So basically, 24-year-old me signed me up for a lifelong commitment with a stranger. ( Fortunately, he did a pretty good job with that one. )
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Being single is far superior to having a good marriage, but a bad marriage is far worse! It’s a gamble. As we all know, not all gambles pay off. You need to be aware that a certain percentage of married couples will roll snake eyes.
It’s high risk, high reward.  ,
But more often than not, if you both truly believe you’re a team and that your spouse is your ride-or-die no matter what, I truly believe your marriage will prosper. That mindset seems to be the main factor in why some marriages succeed while others do n’t.  ,
So, in a sense, it’s a self-fulfilling prophecy. To quote the great poet Dickinson ( Bruce, not Emily ):” The truth of all predictions is always in your hands”.
It takes work. Lots and lots of work. Work that never ends.
Plus faith and trust. And humility and compassion.
Because, ultimately, the grass is n’t greener on the other side: The grass is greenest where you choose to water it.
Now go erase your Internet History.