I frequently report on fake” problems” pushed by advertising.  ,
Here’s one that may get true:
Children are stressed.  ,  ,
In my fresh videos, Lenore Skenazy, chairman of the non-profit Let Grow, says it’s because today’s parents often allow their kids to experience the joys of freedom.  ,
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Skenazy after allowed her 9-year-old to use his own transportation in the New York City subway. For that, the press labeled her” America’s worst mom”. ” Law and Order”, the TV show, produced an instance where the baby riding exclusively is kidnapped and murdered.
But in real life, what Skenazy allowed is n’t so risky. Her son told me,” I know how to get around”. He gained the self-assurance that comes with taking good care of yourself, and little negative happened to him.
Skenazy contends that children become more self-assured when they are not taught to take care of themselves. Anxiety and depression are” spiking off the tables”, she says, citing the Journal of Pediatrics,
” How do you know the reason is lack of freedom”? I ask. ” Maybe it’s social media” . ,
” Anxiety and depression were going up before smartphones”, she replies.
She claims that the media is to blame for the media’s propagation of” stranger danger” and “isolated examples of child kidnapping.”
” That truly points everyone in the wrong way”, she says. ” The biggest danger to any kid is something that they know, never a man”.
Skenazy advises parents to simply instruct children to “recognize no one can reach you where your cleaning match covers.” Resist, work, push, cry. If somebody’s bothering you, do n’t be nice. Resist. And then review”.
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” Those three R’s”, she says, “keep boys much safer than’ man risk’ because most outsiders do not provide a risk”.
Allowing kids to experience independence does n’t just help kids, she says, it helps parents.  ,
” It’s no fun to believe that the minute your kids get around, they’re going to be kidnapped… and it’s no fun to have to be with your children every one next”.
The U. S. Surgeon General issued an “advisory on the mental health and well-being of kids”, writing,” Over the last decade, families have been regularly more likely to record experiencing high levels of stress”.
” It’s unpleasant if you have to spend every minute monitoring, supervising, entertaining”, says Skenazy,” when there’s so much that you could be doing with your living”!
According to the volunteer I run,” Let Grow” has teachers assign children to do new things when they go home, go shopping, or use the kitchen to make waffles without their parents standing to turn on the stove.
She says youngsters who do this” Allow Grow Knowledge” feel better about themselves “because they’re trusted and doing anything new, and it’s exciting”.
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Again, it’s not just teenagers who benefit.
” The kids are ecstatic”, she says. ” I used to think it was because they were so happy that their kid was n’t kidnaped… But then I started thinking, you have children so that they will survive on when you’re no about. You do n’t know if your child will ever be okay without you until you let them do something without them. Therefore, it is this ecstatic instant of realizing,’ Hey, I had a child who is going to be all right.'”
Because parents “have never been exposed to letting their kids come,” she claims Let Grow is “is contact therapy for parents.” They think that if I allow my child up, anything bad will happen, or I’m a poor family, or I could not forgive myself”.
People need freedom because they do for the same reason; it is how we develop.  ,
